My view on Relationship boundaries (red is the question and black is the answer)
Physical Boundaries
As the name suggests, physical boundaries have to do a lot with our bodies, such as our personal space, touch, the food we eat, the type of lifestyle we lead, medical issues, etc.
Here are some questions you need to think about to determine your physical boundaries:
Do I like being touched by people? (This can include handshakes, hugs, people standing too close to you, high-fives, etc.)
It all depends on the scenario I’m in.
Who can touch me? (Friends, family, acquaintances, close inner circle, etc.)
People that I am familiar with like friends and family (no estrangers nor people I work with).
Am I comfortable having people come into spaces meant for just me, for example, my bedroom? If so, who is allowed in these spaces?
Only if at the moment I allow it, if I’m in my me time don’t bother.
Should people comment on the food I eat?
I won’t say no to real food.
Is there something I am not willing to consume?
(Meat, dairy, gluten, etc.)
I won’t eat meat with lots of caul fat 🤢 🤮 nor
crickets cockroaches worm Ext.. you get my point.
Your physical boundaries may differ from your partner’s or family’s, and there’s nothing wrong with that–as long as you’re comfortable and true to yourself.
Emotional Boundaries
These are the boundaries we set when we think about what we’re comfortable sharing with others. This includes the types of things you’d like to share with your friends and family and the things you’d prefer to keep private.
Some questions that will help you gain better insight into your boundaries include:
Who am I comfortable confiding in and sharing emotional information with?
I am an open book but let me come to you, don’t try to come and digging asking again if I’m ok when I have already told you what I’m going through I just need time to organize my thoughts. Don’t take it personal is just the way I am.
Who would I rather not talk to about these things?
I have learned to accept that is ok to express yourself and let everything out however they are some people who don’t deserve to know what you're going through, so find some you can trust.
How do I process my emotions?
I am Aquarius with that being said I’m full of emotions I’m a working process 😬
What are the things that I am not comfortable sharing with my partner, friends, or family members?
As long as my partner and I are an open book to each other, I don’t have a problem but if by any change that change, I will be backing up for my emotional safety ( a conversation will happen before I get to that stream. This apply to Relationship Partners Friends Family do not brake my trust toward you or you be blacklisted.
Emotional boundaries can be hard for people to understand, so it is crucial to communicate them.
Time Boundaries
Time is one of the most important resources that we have at our hands, and it is up to us to decide what we would like to do with our time. Time boundaries revolve around how we see ourselves spending our time and what we prioritize in our lives.
Here are some questions to ask yourself:
How much time am I willing to spend by myself in a given week?
At the moment I need a period of 4-5 hours by myself, for personal healing and or my me time, one day in a week so that I can just disconnect from this world and enjoy my own company, and yes this is a must-do for me so I don’t get irritated and 🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻everyone around me 😑.
What are the hours that I am willing to work?
Currently, I like to work overnight, is more peaceful and the daytime, and way less traffic
Who has access to me during the hours I’m normally inaccessible to most people (for example, nighttime)?
If I am sleeping my phone automatically turns on Do Not Disturb unless you are in my place, if the world can ends, I will be sleeping.
How do I choose to spend my time? What are the activities that I prioritize over others?
My me time, Partner & everyday responsibility. Work is only a priority if is not affecting my personal lifestyle, I must have a working life valance.
It’s crucial to set healthy time boundaries in your professional life and in your personal life to make sure that you do not feel drained.
Sexual Boundaries
Sexual boundaries are extremely important to ensure that you’re only participating in activities that you’re comfortable with and consent to. In recent years, we have seen a tremendous in sexual awareness. These boundaries include communication, consent, safety, respect, etc.
Here are some questions that can help you think about sexual boundaries:
How do I consent verbally and non-verbally? How does my partner consent and communicate consent?
If I’m understanding the question right, teasing each other being seductive doing Kinki stuff 🤣, as long as we don’t turn off each other we will have amazing sex 😜. communication is the key
What kinds of sexual acts am I comfortable with?
I'm a male version of a dominatrix I like to dominate you in bed, I find it fun. sex is not about who is the top or bottom of the relationship, is more about exchanging energy, enjoying each other playing with toys, and a little bit of role-playing, trying new things to better our sexual life, sex is art enjoy the ride don’t be close mind it you only lived ones. As long as is not weird (See Below). Accept and feel comfortable with your sexual desires there is nothing to be ashamed of.
I myself, still exploring things about myself.
How do I like to communicate during a sexual interaction?
I think when it happens it happens, but don’t be too talkative it turns me off unless is dirty🤪, as I like to enjoy the moment and the energy we are sharing, the rest is for you to find out 😉.
What are my limits when it comes to sexual intimacy?
3some are a no for me, done it before in my Youngers years and it was a good experience but there’s always tension in the room with the couples, I don’t see it as a healthy way for a relationship, I don’t like to share, if I’m ever in that position is best for me to end the relationship at the moment and we can all move along with our life.
Not Fucking a woman (Bad experiences), I’m allergic to pussy.
No animals EWW 🤮
How do I like to protect myself from STDs and STIs?
Trust must be in it at all times, as this is a mutual agreement, our health is in the line, Stds and Stis won’t show up in your system for years there for getting tested every 3 months have to be a priority, if you don’t fell conftrurle or your scare, is better to be Safe than sorry, get tested. Do it for yourself.
As much as this may seem to be a turn-off, it is important to think about your sexual boundaries and communicate them to your partner and understand theirs to have a respectful experience.
Intellectual Boundaries
As the name suggests, intellectual boundaries have a lot to do with our ideas, thoughts, and beliefs. We all have a unique perspective that we see the world through, and we must figure out how to respond to people who don’t share the same ideas and beliefs, choose to discuss or not discuss something with others, etc.
Here are some questions that can help you understand your intellectual boundaries:
What are some ideas and beliefs that are non-negotiable for me?
Don’t think I’m stupid nor try to scam me.
How do I communicate respect to someone else’s thoughts and ideas?
By listening to their point of view and respecting their ideas, even if we don’t share the same ones.
At what point do I walk away from an argument or a debate?
If it turns into he said she said or they want to force you to understand.
How do I communicate to others when I feel disrespected?
Tell them right there ( I don’t appreciate you disrespecting me as I’m not disrespecting you.)
We often give intellectual boundaries less thought, but they are just as important as any other boundaries that we might create.
Monetary Boundaries
Money is essential for our survival and is one of the most important resources that help us determine the life that we will lead. It is crucial to understand your relationship with money and your security priorities.
Here are some questions to ponder over:
How do I define luxury, and what kinds of luxury am I open to spending?
Let's be real we all like the attention of wearing a high fashion brand, the way people look at you at the mall when you get out of the Prada store is glamorous speaking from my own experience, but expensive brands and labels don’t make any differences in this world if your and asshole treading people like they are worth nothing. stay humble we are just passing by don’t be another broken sold walking in this world.
If you have the money go for it but remember to stay humble.
Personally, I like to keep it simple, the less shit I have the less I have to deal with
What is my philosophy when it comes to money?
Don’t make money your god, Yes be all rely on it, but see it more as a tool to take you where you want to be, don’t be a workaholic and miss out on your family, the only things you are taking with you are your memories, not the money in your bank or the shit you own.
What are the things that I do not wish to spend a lot
of money on?
Simple live life and travel around the world.
What are the things that I consider essential?
Your basic needs as a human house or a place to stay clothing car, phone light water food ext...
What do I consider an investment, and what are the
things I am open to investing in?
Home, my mind, body, and soul.
Am I open to taking out loans or having credit?
If we are married is a mutual decision.
Like it or not, we live in a materialistic world and have strong boundaries for money as it is detrimental to our survival and dictates the kind of lifestyle we lead.
Navigating Boundaries: Are They Important?
The thing is that boundaries don’t have a good reputation as people often think of them as being bad.
But, in actuality, boundaries are excellent not only for your relationships but for your overall mental health! These set limits on the types of behaviors you consider acceptable to don’t leave an interaction feeling unhappy or hurt.
Why are Boundaries Good For Me? Why Should I Have Them?
Boundaries can un-complicate many things in your life and can make it easier!
Here are a few advantages of having boundaries:
You won’t feel taken advantage of.
You’ll be far away from drama, pointless arguments, and debates once you’ve effectively communicated your boundaries.
You’ll have more time and mental energy to devote to yourself and your goals.
Relationships will feel easier to maintain.
It’ll be easier for you to manage your time.
You’ll feel more comfortable in your relationships.
https://mycharlestontherapist.com/blog/general/relationship-boundaries/
Healthy relationships vs. unhealthy relationships
In healthy relationships, people can feel safe, respected and accepted for who they are. In unhealthy relationships, people may feel anxious, confused, uncertain and even unsafe. Knowing these differences can help you make choices about who you date and for how long.
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Here are some signs of a healthy relationship:
Being yourself: you feel comfortable around the person you’re dating. Changing yourself to please someone else won’t work in the long run and can frustrate your friends and family, so it’s important to be yourself.
Honesty: you feel comfortable talking about things in the relationship, including problems or concerns.
Good communication: you discuss things that are important to you or your relationship. You ask each other what you’re thinking and feeling and you listen to each other.
Respect: you respect and support each other, and listen to each other’s concerns. It’s important to treat yourself with respect and say no to things that make you uncomfortable.
Feeling safe: if you feel threatened in any way, you’re not in a healthy relationship. Feeling safe is both emotional and physical. It’s important to know that your partner won’t try to hurt your feelings or your body.
Trust: trust is about being able to count on someone. It’s about believing that someone will be honest with you and follow through on their promises. When you trust someone, you know that they’ll support you and look out for you. You have each other’s best interests at heart.
Equality: equality keeps relationships safe and fair. For example, being equal in a relationship means sharing the power, not bossing each other around. Equality can also mean sharing the effort. If you text or call your partner often, but they don’t seem to have time for you, your relationship may be unequal.
Support: support is about feeling cared for and respected. In healthy relationships, people listen to each other, help out with problems and show support by attending important events.
Dealing with arguments
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It’s healthy to argue from time to time. Disagreeing gives you a chance to explore different perspectives and helps you express your feelings. It’s a problem if you’re fighting all of the time or if you say cruel things. It’s important to remember that physical fighting (punching, hitting, etc.) is never OK.
Here are some tips for fighting fair:
Stay calm: try to speak calmly, no matter how upset you are.
Don’t accuse: even if you’ve been wronged, it’s better to explain how you feel than to blame or accuse the other person. For example, it’s better to say, “I felt hurt and embarrassed when you did that,” than “You think I’m an idiot.”
Address the problem: discuss what you’d like to change. Aim for a solution rather than winning the argument.
Step back: when tempers are hot, take a break. Suggest that you talk about it in a day or two, after you’ve both had time to cool off and think.
Fighting fair online
If you’re fighting online, it’s still important to fight fair. It’s important to:
Be respectful: don’t post hurtful comments on someone else’s social media or do other things that could cause harm.
Think before you press send: give yourself some time to cool off before you send an online message. If you wouldn’t say it in person, don’t say it online.
Unhealthy relationships
While it’s common to fight or bicker in most relationships, sometimes relationships can be toxic and leave a person feeling insecure or scared.
Here are some signs of an unhealthy relationship:
Physical abuse: your partner pushes you, hits you or destroys your things.
Control: your partner tells you what to do, what to wear or who to hang out with. They constantly check up on you or use threats (for example, to harm you or themselves) to make you do things.
Humiliation: your partner calls you names, puts you down or makes you feel bad in front of others.
Unpredictability: your partner gets angry easily and you don’t know what will set them off. You feel like you’re walking on eggshells.
Pressure: your partner pushes you to do things you don’t want to do or aren’t ready for, including sex or using drugs and alcohol. They don’t take “no” for an answer and they use threats or ultimatums.
Some signs of an unhealthy relationship may be considered dating violence. If you’re experiencing physical, emotional or sexual abuse, it’s important to get support and stay safe.
https://kidshelpphone.ca/get-info/healthy-relationships-vs-unhealthy-relationships/.